tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7120102706746000480.post2585644533116588195..comments2023-05-12T03:38:41.343-07:00Comments on Mr. Quarter's Corner: The Deuce and WomenMr. Quarterhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05530232886176570511noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7120102706746000480.post-12728979010833864442010-09-19T10:00:22.746-07:002010-09-19T10:00:22.746-07:00Most of us at the adult level, have been through a...Most of us at the adult level, have been through a bad relationship and/or marriage. The pain and hurt can be overwhelming to the point of blinding us to the truth. I spent a few years in 'hate' mode, until the day I realized that what my example was teaching my children, was that marriage was bad, the opposite sex was bad, and that I shared NO responsibility in the faiure. That gave me pause, and was a shocking thought to me. Did I want my kids to grow up with that attitude? That example? That was when I looked back with my eyes open to the possibility that I - here's the shock - might have been blinded by bitterness. A moment that made me realize that no matter how bad my spouse was, I TOO was at fault. I could never please the X, tried to be what I thought was expected, did all the RIGHT stuff, or so I thought. But when I looked back, I realized that I had never been honest about who I was. What I wanted. I realized that it takes honesty and REAL communication to make a marriage work. I had never considered my partner an equal, never considered that being equals was more interesting then allowing one of us to always make the decisions, always take the lead. And hopefully, while painful, my moment of clarity will help my kids in their marriages. Go figure.Apatnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7120102706746000480.post-73221014338216211462010-09-14T09:26:20.287-07:002010-09-14T09:26:20.287-07:00If you are describing your wife it doesn't sou...If you are describing your wife it doesn't sound like you liked her. I don't think I would but I'm just wondering, if not for your children, saying goodbye to her sounds like a good thing. Perhaps you could hang out with men who choose better women.Stacyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06280430070524489650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7120102706746000480.post-66388660880564417842010-09-13T13:30:11.268-07:002010-09-13T13:30:11.268-07:00Marriages fail because they are a house of cards h...Marriages fail because they are a house of cards held up by the weakest of foundations - human character. Only real committment and courage can maintain a marriage. As you point out, your friends marriages almost combusted spontaneously and instantly at the point where the wifes decided they were no longer happy. Lacking the character committment, and courage to stay they simply exited and the marriage collapsed - not withstanding any efforts by the husband to try and save it. Like an egg, easy to break and impossible to reassemble.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7120102706746000480.post-42164438777329319942010-09-12T08:50:45.942-07:002010-09-12T08:50:45.942-07:00Not all women are like that. But the ones who are...Not all women are like that. But the ones who aren't are few and far between. I don't like or tolerate the drama from other women. Don't like shopping and only have just a little above the bare essentials in clothing. Understand if a man isn't interested in my interests (however, many of my interests include male-oriented pass-times) and don't expect anyone to participate in any activity if you've tried it and don't like it or it's against your own personal beliefs. <br /><br />I agree kids today are too spoiled and coddled and time-outs just don't work on some children. Back in our day, we knew if we did something wrong and got caught, we'd pay twice....once from the one we got caught by and double when we got home. AND we took responsiblity for our actions. Now they think they can hide behind Mom and Dad and can't be touched.<br /><br />And my dad was an avid gun collector.Deb Jnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7120102706746000480.post-58361084285079817212010-09-12T07:19:31.280-07:002010-09-12T07:19:31.280-07:00Sounds like you had a bad day. Need someone to ta...Sounds like you had a bad day. Need someone to talk to and tell you it will be all right? Sorry, just kidding. I've been there and done all that.Mr. Quarter.noreply@blogger.com